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If you're comfortable with sharing, plz use this to speak about how being vegan affected your ASD and vice versa. Someone I know recently went vegan and they have a lot of food aversions and they've been asking for my help with it but I don't know what to say tbh.

King Grawlix
Unfortunately it's not an area I can offer much advice in because I've never had any issue with food aversions. It's probably the only sensory thing I have never struggled with actually. I do know a lot of other people on the spectrum who have food aversions, so I understand that it can make changing the way that you eat very difficult and that I am quite fortunate to not have had this issue.
If I had to give any advice to your friend, it would be to take their time, sometimes you can't go completely vegan right away, especially if you are dealing with sensory issues or an eating disorder or any other issue that may cause a limited diet. Sometimes you need to take things one step at a time and make small changes here and there before going full vegan. There isn't any shame in that, there really isn't. Everyone is different and we all face different challenges. 🧡🤗

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If you're comfortable with sharing, plz use this to speak about how being vegan has affected your BPD. I too have BPD being vegan usually helps me feel better about myself but sometimes when sabbing or going through emotional activism, it can negatively effect it.

King Grawlix
I'm comfortable sharing!
It doesn't effect my mental health all that much, but that's probably because I don't allow it to. I've never been one of those vegans who can bring herself to look at images of animal cruelty or who purposely seeks out stories and articles (unless I am doing research) because although I can handle it some days, sometimes it is extremely distressing for me. I know that clicking 'unfollow', 'I don't want to see this', and 'block this content' will not make it go away. I know that all too well, and that is part of the reason I went vegan in the first place. Because no matter how much you ignore these things, they are happening all the time. I sometimes think that I would love to participate in activism, but I know it would mean putting myself into situaitons that could jeopordize my mental well-being.
I am thankful that I am able to do something. Voting with your wallet and not supporting industries you disagree with is a form of activism in itself and if that is all I can do, for now, then I will keep doing what I can.

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So what will your next tattoo be ?

I'm getting the three graces from Greek mythology,
Specifically based upon how they appear in Boticelli's painting 'Primavera'. I already have a Birth of Venus inspired piece on my lower arm. It is the only black-work piece I have thus far and I adore it. I wanted to get a tattoo to match and to complement it. Or perhaps I just want to have even more beautiful goddesses on my body. 🤩

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Share something you wrote, it can be anything

" Happiness would be yellow
It would have the aroma of springtime and flowers in bloom
And the faintest smell of rain
It would taste like vanilla
With a sharp, tangy raspberry ripple
It would tickle like long grass on bare legs
It would babble like a brook, and roar like a lion
Happiness would be a bouquet of dandelions
Haphazardly plucked up from the soil
It would sound like birds chirping
And a quiet conversation shared in a bedroom at 6 AM
It would sway and move like a vinyl record,
Twirling on it's turntable
Dancing to the rhythm of it's own song "
- 'happiness would be yellow' , a poem by Joanna M.
More of my work can be found on my blog!
https://www.astoldbyjoanna.com/post/let-me-run-away-with-you-other-poems

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I'm the same! I think there's only one thing she makes with meat in it and it doesn't show the meat really tbh.

King Grawlix
I can tolerate the use of meat in cooking shows as long as it isn't in your face and in every recipe. Cooking shows were something I have always gotten a lot of enjoyment out even long before my vegan days, and very little has changed about that! Nowadays I just find myself watching them and swapping out the non-vegan ingredients for vegan ones in my head and getting inspired. 🤩 This is easier to do with some shows more than others...
Baking shows are the best!

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+2 answers in: “Have you seen Christine McConnell's show on Netflix?”

Which one of your tattoos hurt the most?

Both of my wrist tattoos hurt a bunch despite everyone saying that it wouldn't. At first I thought it was just because it was my first tattoo and I wasn't used to the feeling, but then I got one of them retouched earlier this year and it hurt just as much as I remembered. My wrists are pretty thin and they don't have any chub or squishy-ness on them, so of course I would feel it more when I was being tattooed there as apposed to the rest of my arm. Still, it wasn't unbearable. I'd give the pain maybe a 6/10?

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What do you enjoy most about your tattoos? I want one, but am unsure about such a commitment. Lol

Teri
I like my tattoos because they reflect my journey and who I am.
I was in a pretty dark place when I got my first two so I got them as way to remind myself to stay hopeful and to be kind of to myself. The designs I chose aren't what I would have chosen nowadays but I still like looking at them, and the artwork is still beautiful to me and they still mean a lot to me. I got my next one, my collarbone quote, in memory of Grandmother. I have a paper airplane to represent my love of travel. Three flowers to represent my mother, my father, and brother. Some of my others aren't as "deep" but still have signifiance to me as they represent things I find beautiful or that bring me joy.
I think if you're on the fence about getting a tattoo, you should probably choose for your first one to represent something really really important to you. I don't believe that all tattoos need to be "deep", some people just get them because they look good. But for a first tattoo? Getting something you know you care deeply about and that will remind you of that thing, is a good idea!

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When was the last time you got mad at someone? About what?

Honestly, I don't remember the last time I've gotten truly angry at someone so it must have been quite a while. I get plenty frustrated with people on a somewhat regular basis, because people are often very frustrating. But I know when to pick my battles and when to let go of those feelings and move on, my time is far too precious to spend getting wound up over people who don't really deserve it.

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thats so cool, well done that is so informative tbh, and its gonna make a huge difference to people xox

zack vaughan
Even if it's only a little difference, that'd mean a lot to me.
A big part of the reason why I started writing openly about my experiences in the first place was because when I was younger I felt very alone and isolated within my struggles, if I'd known that other people out there had the same sort of experiences as me, that would have helped me so much. So even if only one person who has walked a similar road to me, reads my content and feels a little bit less alone, I will feel like I have done something right...

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how is the blog going, so cool of you doing it and im proud of you xo

zack vaughan
Thank you!
It's going pretty well. I published a post earlier today, another collection of poetry, and I have a couple more posts in the works. I've been sharing a lot of life updates and creative writing on there lately so I want to take some type to focus on writing about mental health, and autism awareness again. My two upcoming posts are about positive habits and things I did to improve my mental health, and I'm also writing an essay on fictional characters with autism... And why it is important that we are represented in films, tv shows, etc.!

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Ever find yourself confused about who you are and what you want? If so, how do you deal with it?

DovahMonah
A lot. A LOTTTT.
This feeling dominated my life especially during my teens, even creeping into part of my early twenties. I have gone through periods of time knowing who I am, knowing who I want, only to either realize (often suddenly) that I was on the wrong path or to have my plans cruelly snatched from underneath me and to see my visions for the future go up in smoke. It's left me feeling very lost and uncertain more than a few times. It's only been over the last couple of years that I have begun to get a real, strong sense of who I am and what I actually want from my life.
I'm not sure what brought me to this realisation. Maybe I just had a little bit more growing to do before I figured it out. Maybe it has something to do with me feeling more at home within myself now than I ever have before. Who can really say? Whatever the reason, I'm glad that I've finally got here.

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People say I fake autism

Kammi Lane♡ #LoveJoJo
That's really awful.
Nobody has said that to me (yet), but I bet it will happen at some point... Especially since I have decided to talk openly about having ASD on my blog. Sadly there will always be people out there who judge what they do not understand. For some people, making others I feel bad about themselves is their way of making themselves feel better. It's a little sad, but those sort of people exist and there's not a lot you can do to change them.
I think the best thing you can do is focus on yourself and the people who do understand you, the friends who take their time to listen to you and who don't judge. No matter what your bullies might say about wether or not your autism is "real or fake", at the end of the day, they don't KNOW you. Not really. They only know a tiny bit of you. They don't live your life, they don't walk in your shoes, they don't experience all the things you experience, and they never will. At the end of the day... They are just fools who don't really know what they are talking about. That is what I try to remind myself whenever someone makes a harsh and unkind judgement about me. I just say to myself "well this person doesn't know me, and they never will, so their thoughts do not matter". 😉

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What makes you strong?

The fact that I know when to stand up, to shout, to speak up for myself to be fierce... But also when to step back, when to let myself be soft and gentle. And the fact that I know there is no weakness in choosing the latter over the former. That is what makes me strong.

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How logn have you known that you've had Autism?

I was diagnosed early in my childhood.
I think that I might have been about six years old? Either way, I have known that I was on the spectrum for most of my life. It was never something I ever really felt "brave" enough to talk about until very recently despite the fact that it always has been (and always will be) a part of my life. I never knew how people would respond if I just put myself out there, completely honestly and openly, and went: "hey guys, I have autism". I know it isn't something anyone should be ashamed of. Because it's not a shameful thing. But I think a part of me always feared judgement, I feared being judged over a lot of different things actually, that fear of judgement is something I've actively fought to overcome in recent years. Especially after I have realized that it does nothing productive, it does nothing at all besides hold me back. I want to be authentic and honest about myself.
But more so, I want to be the sort of person who I NEEDED to look up to when I was a kid who felt ashamed because of the way she was, who was teased for being different, and who felt she had to lie and say she "wasn't autistic" just to fit in.

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How long have you been writing for?

Generally speaking? Since I was capable of doing so. Creatively? Since I was maybe ten, or eleven years old. How long have I been writing poetry? Since my early twenties. As for my blog, and how long I have been sharing my writing on there, well... My blog is very much still in it's infancy. I only launched it this July!

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What you miss the most from your childhood?

Kelly de Does
I miss the simplicity of things, sometimes.
How all the small things seemed so grand and how I was able to find magic hidden away in the mundane. I also miss having my grandmother around, I don't think I will ever stop missing her and her positivity, her enthusiasm, and unconditional love. Regardless, I am thankful that I had a childhood at all, and one that I can look back on with fond memories.

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